​Trust yourself (and your body) - Everything is an invitation. We encourage stretching into ‘transformative discomfort’ but please stop when you need to, rather than to go to a level of stretch that feels too risky, especially those of us who experience patterns of inequity in groups and being comfortable feels like progress. This means as a group we need to support people to say ‘no’ sometimes.

Care for your needs - Be proactive about what you need to be part of this group. Do what you can to support your own learning and participation, taking responsibility for what you need, alongside what others might need too. Please share what matters to you and be aware that we on the panel have blind spots

Hold the group with care - If you find it easy to speak and participate, be conscious of making space for others. If you don’t find groups easy, please lean in -what you bring is essential for us to be more complete, especially if your voice is historically, systematically discounted.

Be curious - The invitation is to move towards revealing, feeling and speaking about things that are historically not named in groups. If you do not agree, or if what you hear is not true for you, or feels uneasy to consider, rather than fall into judging “what/who is right and what/who is wrong?”, instead ask yourself, “could there be multiple truths here? And if so, what might this reveal about ‘the world/ system’?” It is NOT about ‘being right’, it IS about being curious about experiences that have historically, systemically been kept hidden, silenced, devalidated.

Make space for Multiple Experiences - Speak in“I” perspective rather than in “you/they” language. Share how you experience life and what matters to you, knowing that it will not be the same for others, avoid generalisations, claiming universal truths or saying things like “it is like this” (instead I can say “For me it is…”). Avoid making people justify their experience against what is normal for you.

Confidentiality - Share only your own experiences. Hold others with care and do not represent them within or outside this space